I would still plant my apple tree.

Anyone ever feel this way sometimes?

Because someone you know is most likely thinking the same thing about you.

50 Shades of Bret Easton Ellis

I have a beef

with Bret Easton Ellis.

This guy is a novelist and a screenwriter who just so happens to be queer/bisexual. I want to like him, I sincerely do. There aren't a lot of out bisexual icons or influential bisexual people out there. There are even fewer in the literature circle.

Imagine the kind of awe-inspiring, revolutionary writing that could happen. Imagine the possibilities for the developing of queer characters in books, on TV, in movies. IMAGINE BISEXUAL MEN AND WOMEN ACTUALLY BEING PORTRAYED PROPERLY FOR ONCE.

Which is why I want to root for Bret Easton Ellis. So badly.

But it is very hard to root for this man when he acts like a total dick on Twitter.

OK, maybe I'm being a little harsh with the "total dick" accusation. Let's just say that on The Twitter, Bret Easton Ellis comes across as a bit of an ignorant, clueless ass.

**When reading this post, please remember to read the Twitter tweets from bottom-top. Tweets are published newest tweet up. I know I'm asking you to read upside down and for that, I am truly sorry. Please bear with me. I didn't invent The Twitter**

I'll just say first of all that his use of the word "retarded" in this context is completely uncalled for and unprofessional. He is a published author and a grown man who has what I imagine to be a very wide range of vocabulary, certainly broader than mine. Times like these I wish Twitter had a political correctness check. God knows we need those nowadays just as much as spell checks and grammar checks. Because sometimes, the smartest people can act the stupidest.

Let me provide a little context before I dive straight into everything that is wrong with Bret Easton Ellis' Twitter. First off, he is tweeting about the casting of the film adaptation of the best-selling, most popular piece of shit series ever, 50 Shades of Grey. 

50 Shades of Grey is about a 21-year old girl named Anastasia Steele who meets this dashing, millionaire entrepreneur douche named Christian Grey, who seduces her with his good looks, his obsessive compulsive tendencies, as well as his dick, which apparently is as orgasm-inducing as the Elder Wand was to Voldemort.........for Harry Potter fans out there who want some kind of reference point in understanding why the hell this is one of the best selling series of all time.

I'm a Harry Potter fan and I'm constantly trying to understand why shit like Twilight and 50 Shades of Grey pass at all actually. No distinguishable heroes or heroines, no realism in terms of its characters and motives, no self-awareness, no noble attempts at inserting moral themes and thought-provoking social commentary.

Some books are meant to be shit, I get it. Guilty pleasures, right? But must these guilty pleasures be downright insulting to humanity in general? Must they be written so poorly that the writing itself detracts from the writing itself?

Books live forever, guys. Remember that. One day, our world will look back on us and define us by the literature we bought. Remember that.

And I don't exactly want to be defined as the generation that celebrated male domination over women in romantic relationships. I also do not want to be defined as the generation that got off on sexy words like "Oh jeez" and "Symptom of schizophrenia" and "Cool vanilla spell."

The fact that Bret Easton Ellis, who is a pretty well renowned and respected author, seems to care THIS MUCH about 50 Shades of Grey and its movie adaptation, is quite alarming enough.

The fact that Bret Easton Ellis is tweeting about how gay male actors cannot play straight male roles is just downright homophobic.

The fact that Bret Easton Ellis is queer makes this even worse. Now, I'm not saying that homophobia coming from heterosexual people makes it better. But when a member of the community is acting like he's some kind of self-righteous, judgmental, arrogant, ignorant asshole, then the message being sent stings that much more.

Matt Bomer is this actor right here.

He is a theatre, film and television actor and singer, widely known for his starring role in White Collar. He also happens to be gay. Does his sexuality affect his acting skills? No.

He plays a con man on White Collar. Matt Bomer is not a con man in real life. Does the fact that he isn't a con man affect his ability to play a con man? No.

Christian Grey is a woman abuser and a manipulative psycho. Matt Bomer does not abuse women and he is not a manipulative psycho. Will this detract him from accurately and effectively portraying Christian Grey? No.

All in all, there are many actors and actresses out there who are heterosexual. There are many actors and actresses out there who are not heterosexual. Does their sexuality, whatever it may be, have anything to do with whether or not they are good at their job? No.

Being a good actor is what makes a good actor. Who you're attracted to has nothing to do with acting. It doesn't even live in the same realm as acting. If we are to treat acting here as an art and a job (which it obviously is), who you do on your spare time is completely separate from what you do for a living. 

Long story short, people are not defined by who they fuck. Therefore, their jobs and their art should not be defined by who they fuck. Especially if you're an actor, seeing as your work is to play someone else, someone who is not you, someone who is nothing like you. When your specialty and your expertise lies in BECOMING OTHER PEOPLE, why should your personal life have any fucking thing to do with it?

Let me list the queer people in film history who have played straight people and have (SHOCKER) gotten away with it:

ROCK HUDSON

JUDY GARLAND

MARLON BRANDO

MARLENE DIETRICH

DIRK BOGARDE

BARBARA STANWYCK

MONTGOMERY CLIFT

ESTELLE WINWOOD

CARY GRANT

JOAN CRAWFORD

It's been done before, Bret Easton Ellis. IT CAN BE DONE AGAIN. ACTUALLY, IT STILL IS BEING DONE.

Here I list the names of actors who started their careers while in the closet, played straight people and fooled EVERYBODY.

MATT BOMER

CYNTHIA NIXON

NEIL PATRICK HARRIS

PORTIA DE ROSSI

GEORGE TAKEI

AMBER HEARD

IAN MCKELLAN

JODIE FOSTER

ALAN CUMMING

ANNA PAQUIN

DAVID HYDE PIERCE

Bret Easton Ellis then goes on to say that Universal would never hire an openly gay actor to star in 50 Shades of Grey, and calls people ignorant for thinking this.

Is it just me, or is Bret Easton Ellis being a grumpy grumps? Can't we look on the brighter side of things? Can't we give Universal the benefit of the doubt that they, unlike you, would not consider sexuality when hiring an actor? Can you imagine, just imagine, a film production company that is not as homophobic as you are?

Can you please, PLEASE, for my sanity and for my health, NOT call 50 Shades of Grey the biggest novel of all time??!!!!

PLEASE, SIR. THIS ONE STILL TAKES THE CAKE.

As does this one:

As does all three of these books:

As does only the most popular novel of all time:

As does the Chinese language dictionary:

AND OBVIOUSLY:

So Bret Easton Ellis, the next time you're tempted to call 50 Shades of Grey the best-selling book of all time, just don't. And remember to

It may be the best-selling book of all time in the UK.....but then again, this is the UK. They thought Lisa Simpson giving a blowjob would work as a logo for the 2012 Olympics. I wouldn't take their book purchases seriously.

Bret Easton Ellis goes on to defend his critics who are calling him out on his "self-loathing".....because he is a queer person who is being homophobic in his twittering. Fair enough. But, Bret Easton Ellis, there is a difference between being aware of homophobia in society and being homophobic oneself. Self-loathing is NOT AN UNDERRATED QUALITY. Self-loathing leads to things like body mutilation, depression, anxiety, confusion, suicide. Hating yourself and hating others like you is not going to do anything good for anybody.

I think Bret Easton Ellis, in a sad attempt to talk about homophobia in Hollywood, had to resort to being homophobic himself to show us......TO REALLY SHOW US WHAT THE WORLD IS ALL ABOUT. Now there is some delicious icing of irony that I just want to slather on a fucking birthday cake.

Dear Bret Easton Ellis, we already know how shitty society is towards people like us. We don't need you to perpetuate that. And we certainly don't need you to remind us of that AS WE ALREADY LIVE IT EVERY FUCKING DAY BY, YOU KNOW, BEING WHO WE ARE.

But no, he doesn't stop there. Bret Easton Ellis is just on a roll. It's like he found a shovel and some spongy land and just started digging all the way through the centre of the Earth and out the other side onto Chinese soil.

He goes on to talk about Neil Patrick Harris and how him being gay in real life and him playing a straight person on a TV show is somehow the TV show's way of mocking his homosexuality (in real life). 

I see you trying to be a smart ass, conspiracy theory weaving hipster, Bret Easton Ellis.

OK FIRST OF ALL, Neil Patrick Harris was not out when he was cast in How I Met Your Mother. We can safely assume then, that there was no ulterior motive made on part of the casting crew and producers to make fun of a gay man by casting him in a non-gay role.

SECOND OF ALL, Jason Segal could never play Barney Stinson. NO ONE BUT NEIL PATRICK COULD PLAY BARNEY STINSON.

THIRD OF ALL, he's claiming that it's totally fine when Neil Patrick Harris is hosting the Tonys, but it's not totally fine when Neil Patrick Harris is playing Barney Stinson. Are you saying that gay people are only allowed to do stereotypical gay things, Bret Easton Ellis? Are you saying that it is only when they are doing these stereotypical gay things that they are respecting their gayness instead of poking fun at it? Are you saying that certain roles have sexual orientations and Neil Patrick Harris must choose the role that suits the way YOU see him? Are you also trying to compare a hosting job to an acting job??!! I rest my case. His argument is flawed already. 

FOURTH OF ALL, I think you're the one creating your own paranoia, Bret Easton Ellis. The reason you can't get into the show is because you can't seem to remember that television (even reality shows) IS FICTION. Gay actor playing straight character? WHO CARES, IT'S FICTION. THE WHOLE POINT OF FICTION IS GETTING YOURSELF ABSORBED IN THE STORY, THE CHARACTERS, AND NOT THE SEXUAL ORIENTATION OF ONE OF THE LEAD ACTORS. Good Lord, you would think this is all Bret Easton Ellis ever thinks about. 

Remember the dig to China? Well, Bret Easton Ellis has now gone so far he's broken through our atmospheres and can confidently count all the craters on the moon.

He goes on to critique shows like The Big Bang Theory and Modern Family for not being progressive and for being too gay.

This coming from a guy who just moments before said Neil Patrick Harris was too gay to play Barney Stinson and Matt Bomer was too gay to play Christian Grey.

FIRST OF ALL, there are no gay characters in The Big Bang Theory. The closest thing we could get to a queer character on The Big Bang Theory is Sheldon, who is not even gay but very likely asexual. I don't know where Bret Easton Ellis is getting all the gay out of this show.

SECOND OF ALL, for a comedy, I'd say that Modern Family is pretty progressive. The gay characters are not a) Murderers, b) Perverts, c) Dead, d) Defined by their sexuality. It may not be a perfect show, but it's portraying gay characters on even level with the way it portrays its straight characters. You could say that the two gay leads are ridiculed in the show. But everyone on the show is being ridiculed. It's a comedy. The genre sticks.

THIRD OF ALL, there is no difference between a homophobe and a misanthrope. A homophobe expresses hatred or bigotry towards queer people. A misanthrope hates all people. Saying you're a misanthrope is not helping your case, Bret Easton Ellis. It simply does the opposite. Someone who is a misanthrope is a homophobe. 

FOURTH OF ALL, Bret Easton Ellis says that he hates the way homosexuality is presented in our entertainment culture. I agree with Bret Easton Ellis. Yes, I hate it too. I also hate the way you model homosexual representation in our entertainment culture through your Twitter. You've identified the problem that we were all already very well aware of, but you're also part of the problem.

I like that Bret Easton Ellis then changes his mind and says that it is "imperative" that Christian Grey be played by a gay actor. As if to either make his readers happy or throw their criticism in their faces in a "fuck all" type attitude.

WRONG, Bret Easton Ellis, WRONG. Christian Grey should not be played by a straight actor. Christian Grey should not be played by a gay actor. Christian Grey should be played by whatever actor impresses the casting directors. He should be played by whatever actor has the most chemistry (or lack thereof, depending on your interpretation) with the actress who will be playing Anastasia Steele. Straight or gay, it doesn't matter. We're not auditioning the actor's sexuality. We're auditioning his acting.

I can't believe I just shat 2.5 days worth of feelings towards this writer in this one post.

Here's what I have to say to this whole fiasco:

1. Matt Bomer should not play Christian Grey. Not because he's gay, but because he's too good for this shitty series.
2. Christian Grey, for strictly marketing purposes, should probably be played by a straight actor. Not because the straight actor would provide a more convincing performance, but because the female readers and the fans are more likely to become infatuated with an actor if they see themselves as having the slightest chance of hooking up with him in real life. It's kind of like how I feel towards Amber Heard. She was hot when I thought she was straight, but she's even hotter now that I know she isn't. Because there's that one voice in my head that says, "She wouldn't be completely repulsed by me. I HAVE A CHANCE." It's a ridiculous sentiment, the outcome being impossible, yet let's face it, many of us can't help but think these thoughts. The production companies involved will definitely be thinking about promotion and marketing. They will likely choose an actor who is ideal in that his personal life can be conveniently displayed on magazine spreads and he can be photoshopped just enough to look good on the poster. They're basically searching for the next Robert Pattinson or Gerard Butler. To be honest, I think that'll be the extent to what they will be looking for in their leading man.
3. It's possible that Bret Easton Ellis tweets like this because he is an attention-seeker, and not because he truly believes in this. Regardless, I still think it's equally douchey. He's still putting this kind of negativity and hatred out there. He's still choosing to categorize, characterize and limit people.
4. Bis deserve their role models - people who will properly represent them, write about them and for them, and speak with compassion and understanding instead of bigotry and distaste. Self-loathing is definitely not underrated and it definitely has no place in the queer community - or in any community for that matter. We need to be in a constant state of motion in which we seek to make a better life for our friends and for the new generation that will emerge. So some a lot of pride would be good.
5. Frank Ocean is our real bisexual boyfriend, by the way. Bret Easton Ellis could learn a thing or two from him.

Also, Frank Ocean actually knows how to tweet:

If only more writers used Twitter for poetic purposes instead of 50 Shades of Grey purposes, I feel like the world would be a better place.

Good grief.

WAIT SO WAIT WAIT WAIT WAIT.


So I think it has technically been confirmed that there is a very high likelihood that Kristen Stewart is NOT a lesbian??!!

WORLD CRUSHED. DREAMS SHATTERED. HEART TORN. 


I feel like my childhood has been taken away from me. All those years watching Panic Room and Catch That Kid....all of it, all of it.....all for shame.


OH WOE IS ME.

I was totally convinced that the thing with Robert Pattinson was a publicity stunt, and that once the Twilight movies were finished she'd, you know, start dating Dakota Fanning like she was meant to. But this cheating scandal probably means that that is never going to happen. 


Which is unfortunate.


It's something to say when one of the hottest lesbians in the world isn't actually gay.


It's also something to say when people cheat on their significant others. Like shit. People are selfish and awful and stupid sometimes all the time.


Days like these I just want to sit out on the balcony and eat ice cream angrily.

In other news, Jeremy Renner was on Jimmy Kimmel last night to promote The Bourne Legacy and everything about it was sexy as fuck. Matt Damon was right about Renner. I could watch that man sit on a bench for hours on end watching ducks for fuck knows why and it would still be totally glorious.


LE SIGH.

Dear Colorado,

I would just like to say that my heart goes out to all of the victims, their families, their friends and all others who have been affected by the shooting that occurred at the Century 16 theatre in Aurora, Colorado, last night.

It's tragedies like these that make us doubt humanity, the world, everything. I don't really know what to say to it. There really is nothing I or anyone else can say.

Cherish life, cherish love. It's precious and unpredictable. But it's the one thing that will always be stronger than that which seeks to destroy it.

Prayers going out to everyone in and outside the city of Aurora. You're all in our thoughts.

Dear Mr. Earl Grey

Nothing like a good cup of tea to help you process your infinite thoughts on life, the universe and everything.

Oh, America.

Today, I came across the most abhorrent article I have read in a long time:

OK.


So I don't really watch NFL football, and I don't really know Tim Tebow, except for the fact that I know people who know him....but that aside, I frankly don't really care. I heard that he prays in the middle of games and has Bible verses written on his face - but to be honest, I've been going to church for so long that stuff like that doesn't even phase me. I know that he's a football player who gets lucky sometimes, and that he became a huge star because of it. Other than that, I'm pretty much MEH when it comes to anything football, so I don't really have an opinion when it comes to him either.


But the way that this AshleyMadison website is using him is pissing me right off.


This is what is wrong with American media, and western culture in general. THEY ARE SO FUCKING OBSESSED WITH THE CONCEPT OF VIRGINITY AND SEX.


And yes, I call virginity a concept. Yes, I am one of those annoying weirdos who thinks that virginity is a social construct. It's a test by which we judge a woman's purity and a man's masculinity.


Everyone is obsessed with a woman's virginity because we are a society that sees women as objects owned by men. Women are to remain virgins until marriage because they belong to their husband and their husband only. Their worth (and marriages were once business transactions) is therefore in their virginity, which is defined by an intact membrane. Remember people, an INTACT MEMBRANE is the source of a woman's worth. THIS IS WHAT WE ARE OBSESSED OVER.


Everyone is obsessed with a man's virginity because we are a society that sees men as pursuers whose power lies in their sex. Men are expected to want to sleep around constantly with multiple partners - because remember, evolution dictated it that way. If men are not sleeping around, or if they are virgins, then they are not taking control of their masculinity. They are being feeble, they are not owning up to their identity. In other words, ALL MEN MUST BE HAVING SEX ALL THE TIME. Or else they are not real men.


I am one of those who thinks that sex is sex is sex. Your body is your body is your body. In other words, I don't fucking care what you do. You can be a virgin, you can not. You can call it virginity, you can not. It doesn't really matter. I have no business judging you on what you do. Everyone has a choice, and who am I - who are all of us, to make that choice for an individual?


I think the American media's obsession with Tim Tebow's sex life is completely inappropriate, disgusting and disrespectful. He is a grown man, he can make whatever decisions he wants to make. You can call him a slave to his own religion, you can call him gay, you can call him a joke. But what it all comes down to is an individual living his life the way he wants to. And who are we to say that he's deprived? Or that he's not living life to the fullest? Or that he's not taking good enough advantage of his fame and money?


No matter what you think of Tim Tebow, HE IS HIS OWN PERSON AND HE CAN ENJOY HIS OWN LIFE WITHOUT YOUR HELP, THANK YOU VERY MUCH.


Good Lord, we are living in an increasingly secular society that looks down on religious people that push their religion on others. Yet, this secular society is doing just that to Tim Tebow - pushing their views on him as if he needs to see the light that is groupies and girlfriends and lots and lots of lapdances.


Think about it though, what's wrong about a professional male athlete (or anyone, for that matter) choosing to abstain from sex? Does it kill animals? Does it cause earthquakes? Does it really affect any of us in a negative way?


The answer is, quite simply, no.


So why is it that the American media is turning it into the biggest deal in the world? Are we that deprived of news stories? Of entertainment? Do we need to make fun of somebody else's choices because we're too pathetic to intellectually stimulate ourselves in other ways?


It may not have been the best idea for Tim Tebow to announce his abstinence to the world, and people might say that he brought it on himself. But really, famous people talk about their sex lives all the time to the media, and they're not publicly shunned, so why should he be? Why do we need to talk about Tebow as if we are somehow above him? Sure, he's not the best football player, but technically, he's still a better player than most of us. He's in a career that he enjoys, and he does charity work. Most of all, he's a human being and we are all human beings so the answer is no, none of us are better than he is. 


I personally think that there's something significant about going against the status quo, of saying yeah, I do what I want when I want and fuck you all. I don't care for football but I admire that aspect of him.


I think that the American media needs to realize that there is more to this world than sex, and to get over it. It's been around since the dawn of life, it's really not that revolutionary. Sure, it's an awesome subject to talk about it in general, but when it comes down to talking about it in relation to an individual's lifestyle, it's just creepy and pervy to me.


So, America, please just give it up. It wasn't funny in the beginning, and it isn't funny now. Be more creative with your news stories. 


AshleyMadison, you can take that $1 million and shove it up your ass. Or better yet, use it to feed an entire third world country. God knows that would go to much better use than getting Tim Tebow laid.

Shit meme

OK, so you guys know the current "Shit....Says" meme phenomenon seeping through youtube culture right now. Don't know what I'm talking about? Here are a couple examples:

And my personal favourite:

Anyway, I hung out with some real idiots yesterday and they inspired me to do my own version.

So here it is.

SHIT STRAIGHT GUYS SAY 

(WHEN THEY ARE DRUNK)

"I've got big guns, check them out."

"Mine are bigger than his."

"SHOTS!!!"

"Ew, baseball."

"Ew, the Maple Leafs."

"Ew, bourbon."

"SHOTS!!!"

"Engaged women at their bachelorette parties are bulls-eye targets for easy sex."

"Natalie Portman is a beautiful woman."

"SHOTS!!!"

"Guys are physically stronger than girls."

"Really, guys are physically stronger than girls."

"I won't argue feminist issues with girls."

"SHOTS!!!"

"If she's willing, then technically it's not my fault."

"If I push her, and she's willing, then it's technically not my fault."

"If she wants it, I can't exactly say no."

"SHOTS!!!"

"Would you rather date a guy who covers up his baldness or a guy who shaves his head and owns his baldness?"

"I'm totally going to be bald in the next seven to ten years."

"SHOTS!!!"

"As long as she takes a shower after fucking him, I am totally ok with fucking my best friend's girlfriend."

"And that is so not homoerotic."

"You just...weed out the yard before you sow your seed, you know?"

"SHOTS!!!"

"The way the media portray Luongo...it's a whole load of fuckery."

"Jonathan Toews? God, Jonathan Toews. I would make sweet love to that man."

"SHOTS!!!"

Now, don't get me wrong. I like straight guys, I really do. They're cute and funny and they're a real ego booster because their stupid antics make me feel a lot more evolved and a lot more intellectual than I actually am. In case you were wondering, I am not exaggerating any of the quotes above. The people I hang out with actually talk like this. And their drunk talk is pretty much their normal talk because we seem to be drunk together all the time. Sometimes, I facepalm so much in their presence that I just look like I'm passed out on the table. 

My goal for this month is to drink less. The moment that thought appeared in my head though, this other part of my brain was all "MOTHERFUCKIN' BOLLOCKS."

Thanks, brain. Thanks for the support.

ever wonder?

The Canucks for Kids Fund Telethon happened yesterday during the game versus the Jets. Some of the stories told were incredibly sad yet inspirational and amazing. You think about all these kids and their parents who are going through so much and yet are able to find a great amount of strength. They still have this lust for life that is uplifting and very encouraging. Sometimes I hear the stories of these people and I truly believe that they encompass the meaning of life and its simplicity. It's not some great philosophical question that needs to be answered. The meaning of life is to stop searching for the meaning of life and to just be.

One of the things that came up during the telethon was the promotion of mindcheck.ca, a website created by various mental health services and organizations in BC including BC Children's Hospital to bring awareness to mental illness and depression. Many people often dismiss depression as an illusion, a non-existent "sickness" that does not require medication or attention. It's a silent disease that often carries no visible symptoms, but leads to fatal consequences.


Today, I went to a funeral for a friend who suffered from this. No one knew what he was going through - he had masked it so well, yet it ultimately took his life in the end. He was 25, he would have been 26 this April. He died nearly two weeks ago, and I still can't stop thinking about him. He was a beautiful boy who loved life and people. He had a passion for the environment and for animals. He had travelled the world, and oftentimes his conversations would always lead to talk of his future aspirations of working in foreign countries and helping those who live there. When I first met him, it was his level of experience and selflessness that struck me, as well as his intellect and sense of humour. I keep thinking about his last moments, how he must have felt the day he did it, and I'm at a loss. A couple days ago, my friends and I passed by the place he died. It happened by accident. We were coming home from the mountain - my friend missed a turn and we ended up exactly where I didn't want to be. There was silence from all of us. We didn't acknowledge it, but we knew that we were all thinking the same thing. We didn't want to be here. We should have paid more attention to the roads before. I wanted to close my eyes. I couldn't. The place was so beautiful and as I looked at it, I wished that I had been there with him -  wishing somehow that one of us, that anyone, could have stopped him from doing what he did.


mindcheck.ca was inspired by Rick Rypien, an NHL hockey player for the Vancouver Canucks who had suffered from depression for over a decade, something that eventually lead to his suicide at the age of 27. We all miss him dearly. His career was fulfilling, one of a very talented athlete with a passion for the game and an enduring love for his teammates. His life has now inspired greater awareness of mental health in the Lower Mainland, and he remains an encouraging symbol for the city and its sport. 


Every mind and body is precious to this world. Check yourself and the people you love. 

www.mindcheck.ca

The de-evolution of the human race has started. Too bad Darwin isn't here to see it.

So music's biggest night is over and Twitter is still teasing God into destroying us in 2012 once and for all. These tweets were sent into cyberspace moments after Chris Brown's performances and win at the Grammy Awards.

Chris Brown's fans just killed an already dead horse. 


I'm sure that many of them don't actually mean what they're saying - the subject of the actual incident seems to be used to express how much they still love him and his music despite what has happened. But something as serious as violence against people should never be used to enhance a statement or as a joke to lighten a somber mood (which is done more often than any of us would like). Abuse of women, for example, is a serious issue that is unfortunately oftentimes a) Taken lightly b) Blamed on the victim c) Not addressed at all.


To see people - women and men - dismiss abuse so easily, even have a laugh over it, is one of the most disturbing things in the world to me. Does no one respect themselves and/or other people anymore? Do people not realize that in many instances, domestic violence ends in death? Since when was physical/emotional scarring and death something to laugh about?


It's even more disturbing that these are girls/women saying (or in this case, tweeting) these things. Lacking education and awareness can really skew your views on these issues. It may seem like pretty common knowledge, but clearly, people still don't understand that it is not cool to beat up other people.


So I will say this again: 

It is not cool to beat up other people, no matter what the sex of the person. Domestic violence and emotional abuse are never acts of love and care. Many people are trapped in these unhealthy and controlling relationships, which can often end in dire and sometimes fatal consequences. Therefore, to make fun of the situation, dismiss its tragic nature or make excuses for the offender's actions is extremely disrespectful to victims of abuse. 

In summary, you will end up looking like an ignorant, cold-hearted, simpleminded jackass if you say/tweet shit like this.

Chris Brown has not come close to showing any remorse for what he did. He hasn't properly apologized. He hasn't properly addressed it. And because of that, I'm still side-eyeing the people who tweeted tonight, as well as the Grammys for giving him TWO FUCKING PERFORMANCES, and all the people who gave him a fucking STANDING OVATION for said fucking performances. I'm all for forgiveness and all, but when a guy who beat up his girlfriend does not seem to give a shit about what he did, I am done. I will bite my thumb at you until it bleeds, you dick.